I’ve been taking a long look lately at how people make choices — about how they spend their time, how they spend their money, how they pick their goals — and whether they are really thinking through the situation or simply just reacting.
In my experience, I’ve found that many people overestimate the control they have over events and other people (and the control that events and other people have over them!), while severely underestimating the control they have over themselves.
Sure, the economy is tough and unemployment is at its highest levels. And sure, there’s a lot of uncertainty about where things are headed and when they’ll get better. But focusing on situations that we can’t change, like how the economy is performing, does nothing but bring on stress. In the meantime, we don’t put our energies around what we CAN change, like our actions.
We can get more knowledge and information, we can get more help, we can take smaller steps (or bigger ones), anything that gets us moving in a forward direction instead of spiraling out of control.
If you don’t know where to begin, then I recommend Gina Mollicone-Long’s latest book, Think or Sink: The One Choice that Changes Everything. Rather than a book about WHAT to think, it’s a book about HOW to think, and particularly, how to manage your own thoughts and emotions to manage stressful situations much more confidently.
Gina has been transforming lives for over a decade and she claims that she’s never seen a problem that couldn’t be solved in 12 hours or less. For less than $15 you can learn her techniques and make a difference in your life.
Check out http://www.ginaml.com/think.